Once again, this is a common scene with Crohn’s Disease. Planning around Crohn’s is quite difficult, since it so unpredictable. As I mention in my page “About Crohn’s Disease“, Crohn’s frequently causes both diarrhea and stomach pain. This means that the afflicted frequently need to bail on plans at the last minute. This can be frustrating and disappointing for everyone involved.
So, what’s the best way to deal with the unpredictability of Crohn’s Disease? In my experience, having Crohn’s or having someone in your life with Crohn’s necessitates constant patience, understanding, and forgiveness. As with most relationships, communication is critical. For my part, I’ve let most of the people in my life know that I have Crohn’s and whenever I’m having a flare, I let them know that I’m sick and I may not be reliable. For me, it’s easier to be forthcoming.
That said, I sometimes let pride get in the way. When I’m really sick and I’ve had to cancel plans too often, I sometimes make myself go out just so I can feel normal, even if I’m not up to it. In these cases, I usually leave my house, get to the social function, then need to bail immediately. What can I say? I’m human. I hate feeling like a sick person. At least my family and friends know that I’m trying. They understand that living with and planning around Crohn’s is tough.