So, in case you haven’t noticed by now, I have a dark sense of humor. Dark humor helps me cope. It’s one of the main reasons this site exists. It adds levity where there would otherwise be despair and it can make a tough situation manageable. However, in this instance, it backfired.
Sometimes I’m baffled as to why anyone would date me. I’m generally a pretty good guy, but I also have a really bad habit of speaking without editing or considering how things sound outside of my head. This is often at odds with being in a relationship, as relationships require the ability to read the other person and react in a manner that syncs. My fiancé was reeling from the reality of the situation and my attempt at dark humor made it so much worse. Behind my comment really was my blessing that she could move on if anything happened, but man, horrible timing.
So my advice to people like me: read the room first, knucklehead. Think about what you’re about to say before you say it and how it will make others feel. Sometimes, you don’t need the crutch that humor provides. Sometimes, situations just suck and that’s part of life. And that’s ok.