A lot of people grow up with a view of relationships that’s been skewed by Hollywood and Disney. I call it happily ever after syndrome. Basically, life with a partner is always supposed to be sweet, romantic, and sexy. That’s always seemed like a load of crap to me and wouldn’t you know it – I was right.
Here’s why that’s actually a good thing though. I offer that even though you see a lot of romance in the movies, you rarely see a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship can only exist between two individuals who know each other well, respect each other, and are comfortable around each other. Basically, a good relationship means you can be yourself and not have to play a role. You can just be you and the other can just be the other, and that’s ok. You accept each other.
Don’t get me wrong, romance is important, but being yourself and living your life comfortably in front of another person is important too. People eat, sleep, snore, burp, fart, clip their nails, clean their ears, floss, blow their nose, and 1,000 other unromantic things. I’m not saying you need to share everything (especially as a Crohnie, bathroom time is my time), but you should be comfortable enough that you don’t need to pretend or hide these things. I guess what I’m saying is that a good domestic life isn’t always sexy, but it should always feel authentic and true. Hollywood doesn’t show you that because it isn’t very eventful. It’s just nice.